46 Clues Your Partner is Having an
Affair
By Dr. Robert Huizenga
1) You find birth-control pills in her medicine
cabinet and you've had a
vasectomy.
2) Mutual friends start acting strangely toward
you. (They either know
about the cheating or have been told stories
about what a horrible wife
or girlfriend you are.)
3) Your cheating husband or wife stops confiding
in you and seeking advice from you.
4) Sets up a new e-mail account and doesn't
tell you about it.
5) He leaves the house in the morning smelling
like Irish Spring and
returns in the evening smelling like Safeguard.
6) She joins the gym and begins a rigorous
workout program.
7) She buys a cell phone and doesn't let you
know.
8) He sets up a separate cell phone account
that is billed to his office.
9) The cheating husband carries condoms and
you are on the pill.
10) Begins to delete all incoming phone calls
from the caller ID.
11) Deletes all incoming e-mails when they
used to accumulate.
12) He becomes "accusatory," asking
if you are being true to him, usually out of
guilt.
13) Raises hypothetical questions such as, "Do
you think it's possible
to love more than one person at a time?"
14) He buys himself new underwear.
15) He insists the child seat, toys, etc.,
are kept out of his car.
16) The cheating wife stops wearing her wedding
ring.
17) Has a sudden desire to be helpful with
the laundry.
18) Has unexplained scratches or bruises on
his or her neck or back.
19) Suddenly wants to try new love techniques.
20) He/she fairly suddenly stops having sex
with you.
21) He/she suddenly wants more sex, more often.
22) Supposedly works a lot of overtime, but
it never shows up on the
pay stub.
23) Picks fights in order to stomp out of the
house.
24) You find out by accident he or she took
vacation day or personal
time off from work - but supposedly worked
on those days.
25) Shows a sudden interest in a different
type of music.
26) Spouse's co-workers are uncomfortable in
your presence.
27) Has a sudden preoccupation with his or
her appearance.
28) Spends an excessive amount of time on the
computer, especially
after you have gone to bed.
29) He throws up a lot because he just ate
at his mistress's house and had to eat the
dinner you prepared when he got home.
30) Your spouse is away from home, either nights
or on trips, more
than previously.
31) His/her clothes smell of an unfamiliar
perfume or after-shave. You
see lipstick on your husband's shirt.
32) The amount of money being deposited into
your checking account
drops off.
33) You find items of intimate apparel or other
small gift-type items that you did not give
your spouse.
34) Your spouse seems less comfortable around
you and is "touchy"
and easily moved to anger.
35) You get calls where the caller hangs up
when he or she hears your
voice.
36) He/she loses attention in the activities
in the home.
37) Your intuition (gut feeling) tells you
that something is not right.
38) He/she has a definite change in attitude
towards everyone in the
home.
39) She uses a low voice or whisper on the
phone or hangs up quickly.
40) She has a "glow" about her.
41) Atypical erratic behavior.
42) He sneaks out of the house.
43) She sleeps with her purse by the bed.
44) She goes to the store for groceries and
comes home 5 hours later.
45) He tells you that you can get hold of him
at a different telephone number.
46) The telltale sign of a cheating spouse?
Having to ask that question
in the first place.
Dr. Huizenga, The Infidelity Coach, is
a respected Marriage and Family Therapist with
over two
decades of clinical experience, study and research.
He is an expert on infidelity and extramarital
affairs and author of “Break Free From
the Affair” – a groundbreaking
and best selling e-book offering hard-hitting
strategies for 7 kinds of affairs. He offers
personal coaching and resources for those facing
infidelity that result in marriage problems
and possible divorce.
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