How Do I Know if I'm Ready for Sex?

Did you know that more than 4 in 10 boys and 6 in 10 girls who have had intercourse wish they had waited longer? If you’re a teen wondering if you should engage in sex with your boyfriend or girlfriend, check out this useful quiz from Families Are Talking:

Questions About Your Relationship

Is it committed, mutually kind, and understanding?

Do you trust and admire each other?

Have you experimented and found pleasure in non-penetrative behaviors?

Have you talked about sexual behaviors before they occur?

Is your motivation for this sexual relationship pleasure and intimacy?

Is the setting for the sexual relationship safe and comfortable?

Questions About You

Are you physically mature?

Are you patient and understanding?

Are you knowledgeable about sexuality and sexual response?

Are you empathetic and able to be vulnerable?

Are you committed to preventing unintended pregnancies and STDs?

Are you able to handle responsibility for positive consequences?

Are you able to handle responsibility for potential negative consequences?

Are you honestly approving of the behavior?

Unless you answered yes to all of these questions, you are not ready to be having intercourse.

Here are some more questions to ask yourself about having intercourse:

Is your relationship consensual? Have you talked about how far to go? Do you both agree?

Are you sure you aren't using each other?

Is it honest? If you have intercourse, do you know what it will mean?

Will it be mutually pleasurable? Have you enjoyed other sexual behaviors with your partner? Is he/she as committed to your pleasure as to his/her own?

Have you taken steps to protect yourself against pregnancy and/or disease? Have you obtained condoms and contraception (if penile/vaginal intercourse is planned)?

If you answered “yes” to all of these and your values support having a sexual relationship, visit the Families Are Talking feature “Safer Sex” for information by clicking here. If you did not answer “yes” or your values do not support having a sexual relationship, click here to read their feature on “Abstinence.”


Quick Clicks

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