"When Your Family Won't Accept Your Spouse"
With the holidays around the corner, many families will have the chance
to spend more time together. For some families, this time is spent fighting
and re-opening old wounds. Today’s guests seek Larry’s help in
resolving issues with the in-laws this holiday season:
Marla and Scott are dealing with an array of relationship
issues, many of which they say are exacerbated by the involvement of their
in-laws. Ever since the couple got married, their intimacy levels have dropped
significantly. Consequently, Marla suspects Scott of cheating and often calls
her mother Bonnie to confide and complain. Bonnie wants Marla to leave Scott
because she is sick of seeing Marla in pain. Scott’s mom is another factor
in the family war zone, as Marla feels that she is constantly rude to her and
inappropriate when dealing with their daughter Cassidy.Larry suggested that
both parents step out of the equation so that Marla and Scott can tend to mending
their relationship on their own.
When Sabrina married David, she already had one strike in the
eyes of her in-laws – she’s black. Sabrina says David’s parents
are racist and constantly treat her with disrespect, even calling her the “N”-word.
Her only form of retaliation is to limit the time they spend with her daughter
Brandi, but Sabrina feels that David also needs to take a stand against his
parents on her behalf. David insists that his parents’ bad behavior is
in the past and feels uncomfortable giving them ultimatums.
Guest expert Stacy Kaiser pointed out that David spends more time defending
his parents than defending his wife. She suggested that David start putting
his own family first and his parents second.
to Your Elder :
Vanessa feels that her 16-year-old sister Renata’s style
of dress is way too sexy for school. She is concerned that Renata is going
down the wrong path and giving people the wrong impressions. As a bilingual
student who makes good grades, Renata says that she feels entitled to dress
how she wants. She adds that she also feels more confident when wearing provocative
clothing. Larry commended Renata on her goal of being an attorney and asked
her to consider toning down her style a notch. He also offered to set her up
with a teen mentor in her hometown.
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