In an ideal relationship, both partners trust and
respect each other equally. But the couples on
today’s show face a dangerous imbalance
of power in their relationships – not only
have the husbands featured have taken too much
control over their wives’ lives, but their
behavior often borders on emotional, physical
and/or verbal abuse. Learn more about their stories
In Jan and Howard’s relationship, Howard
is the keeper of the keys – figuratively
and literally. Not only does Howard control all
of the money, but he also refuses to give Jan her
own set of keys to the house so that he can keep
track of where she goes. After four years of marriage,
Howard finally “allowed” Jan to attend
beauty school and agreed to pay her tuition – with
the understanding that if she leaves him, she is
expected to pay all of the money back. Jan attributes
much of Howard’s controlling behavior to
his excessive drinking and thinks things would
improve if he would agree to get help.
Clip: Jan expresses her sadness and frustration
at Howard’s controlling behavior.
Rhonda says that she madly loves her fiancé Andrew,
but that they may never make it up the aisle if
his controlling behavior does not subside. Though
Andrew admits to calling Rhonda “worthless” and
other profane names, he defends himself by saying
he grew up in a verbally abusive household which
makes it difficult to refrain from speaking that
way to Rhonda. Andrew says that he wants to make
a change, while all Rhonda wants is more respect.
Larry offered to send both couples to counseling
and also introduced them to Stephanie, a woman
who successfully got out of an abusive relationship.
Stephanie says that her ex-husband used to physically
restrain her from leaving the house, but that she
was originally flattered by his behavior. Eventually
she realized that she was not setting a good example
for her daughters by accepting his behavior and
decided to leave the relationship. Stephanie shared
her story with today’s guests in hopes that
they would recognize that it is possible to end
the cycle of abuse if things do not improve.
| The Winners of
"The Amazing Race"
Chip and Kim exemplify the picture of a healthy
relationship – after all, their teamwork
and communication scored them $1 million as the
winners of CBS’ “The Amazing Race!” Chip
and Kim appeared on the show to tell Larry about
their phenomenal adventure and their background
growing up in South Central Los Angeles.
Special thanks to Dr. Sandra Graves of Drawbridge
Counseling for providing free marriage counseling
to today’s guests. For more information on
her services, visit: www.drawbridgescounseling.com
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