When Race Becomes A Dividing Issue in A Relationship
It’s hard enough being a victim of racism,
but imagine if your own spouse held racist views – against
you. Enter the dilemma today’s guests are
dealing with: spouses who call them racist names,
claim superiority and pass judgment because of
race. Learn their stories below:
Though Forrest admits to being prejudiced against
Mexicans, he has only dated Mexicans exclusively
and is now married to Glenda, who is Hispanic.
So why does he go for Mexican women if he looks
down on their ethnicity? According to Forrest,
it’s because they are less demanding than
white women and don’t ask for as much respect.
The couple is also dealing with physical abuse
and infidelity but are trying to keep it together
for the sake of their daughter. Expert Dr. Roger
Rhoades suggested that rather than trying to
get Forrest help, Glenda should work on becoming
stronger so that she can make her own decision
whether to stay in the relationship.
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a glimpse of Dr. Rhoades’ and
Larry’s conversation on the situation during
the commercial break.
Nicole says her sheltered small-town upbringing
prevented her from being exposed to different
kinds of people, but when she fell for William,
she fell for him – not his race. However,
William thinks Nicole is too judgmental and that
she needs to learn to accept his African-American
heritage. Recently, the couple filed for divorce:
William feels that Nicole trapped him into marriage
by getting pregnant on purpose, while Nicole
maintains that William blames his drug and drinking
problems on her. Larry suggested that the couple
stop blaming racism for the real problems between
them and give their relationship six months to
get back on track.
As the proud parents of 10 multi-racial children,
David and Jacki Schwantner know a thing or two
about making interracial relationships work!
The couple has been married for 15 years and
met at a bible study in their local church. They
say that their secrets to success are finding
time to spend alone as well as with the children
and keeping the lines of communication open.
Are you in an interracial relationship? Tell
us about it here.