Chelsey, 13, Student
Mom and sister harass her about her weight
5’3” and 170 lbs.
Chelsey says that her mom and her sister
verbally assault her about her weight and that
it’s taking its toll on her. She says that
her mom and sister’s constant barrage of
weight slurs is discouraging her from losing weight.
She wants to lose weight, but she won’t
commit to an exercise regimen that will allow
her to succeed.
WHAT DOES YOUR MOM SAY TO YOU ABOUT YOUR
WEIGHT?
She sits there and calls me “fat.”
Other times I just sit there and walk away. When
she gets fed up with me, she’ll call me
“lazy heifer.” She’ll call me
fatso, or “you’re so fat and lazy.”
That makes me feel bad and cry sometimes. It really
gets me down and I wish that she would stop it.
WHAT DOES YOUR SISTER CALL YOU?
She calls me “fat ass” and
“fat bitch.” My sister calls me fat
pregnant beast and my brother calls me ogre of
the forest. Sometimes I get to the point where
I pin my sister down because she calls me the
nastiest names.
HOW DOES YOUR MOM AND SISTER’S NAME
CALLING MAKE YOU FEEL?
It’s kind of hard when you’re
sitting there thinking about all the negative
things your mom is telling you. I go to school
and think about what she says. It’s hard
to get motivated to lose weight when I hear so
much negativity at home.
WHY DO YOU THINK YOU’VE GAINED WEIGHT?
My real dad doesn’t claim me. He
calls Shalee all the time and sends her $50 for
her birthday. People at school talk about how
nice their dad is or how much fun they had with
their dad. I last saw him 7-8 years ago. He lives
in Maryland. When I was 2, I saw him and locked
myself in bathroom. It makes me less active because
I sit at home depressed.
WHAT’S YOUR WEIGHT GOAL?
I’d like to get down to 110 pounds.
I’m making an exercise program in health
class, and I hope I can lose some weight with
it. I’m not sure why I’m not losing
weight right now. I haven’t eaten a lot
lately. I’m just not active enough.
WHAT DO YOU EAT IN A TYPICAL DAY?
I don’t eat as much as my mom does.
I don’t eat as much as she says. I sometimes
give my food away because I can’t finish.
I couldn’t eat anything the last couple
days. I even threw up a salad. For breakfast,
I have an English muffin with cheese, egg and
ham at school with chocolate milk. At lunch I
have a cheeseburger. For dinner, it’s whatever
my mom cooks. I’ll have a yogurt after school
for a snack. I don’t eat a dinner-sized
snack like my mom says. Dinner is a pork chop
and mashed potatoes. My favorite food is Chinese.
I get sweet and sour chicken and some chow mein.
My favorite dessert food is a chocolate cake.
WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD MAKE YOU HAPPIER?
I’d be a lot happier if my mom and
sister stopped harassing me about my weight. I’ve
been doing a lot of exercising at school. We do
push-ups, curl-ups, crunches and a lot of exercising.
Even though she doesn’t think I do.
WHAT GRIEF DO YOU GET AT SCHOOL?
I don’t get much grief. There are
a lot of people who are a lot bigger than I am,
so they don’t say anything to me. But I
still wish I looked better. I’d love to
look like Angelina Jolie.
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