Kim, 35, Separated,
4 kids
Harasses her daughter for being overweight
Kim hassles her daughter Chelsey about
her weight. Kim admits that she has an anger problem
and she tends to lash out at Chelsey with harsh
words about her size. She also stands by laughing
when her son calls her an “Ogre” and
her daughter Shalee constantly lays into Chelsey
with nasty words.
WHAT DO YOU SAY TO CHELSEY ABOUT HER WEIGHT?
I call her “Fatty.” Then she’ll
cry. I’ll call her “lazy heifer”
and then she’ll walk off saying I’m
“fat and lazy.” If she doesn’t
do what I tell her, I’ll say, “Get
off your fat butt and do it right now!”
She needs to get off her fat ass and do something.
Chelsey used to offer to do everything: the dishes
clean the bathroom or do the laundry. Nowadays,
she’s always asking me how much I’ll
pay her to do something. She won’t do the
laundry if I ask her. Then she’ll make up
excuses. I speak my mind; everyone knows that.
I piss people off. I have an anger problem. I
tell the kids to leave me alone. I’ll tell
Chelsey, “Why don’t you go for a walk?
Why don’t you quit eating all that food?”
HOW DOES CHELSEY REACT TO YOUR HARASSMENT?
She calls me “fatty” or “fat
ass” back. She calls me a horrible mother,
and she’ll start crying. It’s just,
“Get off your butt and do something, damnit!!”
She’ll say, “You’re fat yourself.”
All my kids like to say, “Mom, you’re
fat!” Even my 3-year-old calls me fatty.
I’m not a perfect mom who babies her kids
and they turn out to be drug addicts. I don’t
tolerate a lot of crap. It’s just, “Don’t
frickin’ do it!” I’ve been there,
done that. I don’t say, “Oh, you poor
baby.” She’s a monster. Chelsey blames
me because her dad isn’t in her life. Chelsey’s
awful.
WHY DID CHELSEY START GAINING WEIGHT?
I think it’s because she’s
not active enough. She doesn’t do sh**.
She doesn’t want to exercise. She doesn’t
want to do anything. She’ll eat a couple
large snacks when she gets home and then she eats
dinner. I cut her off after that. She doesn’t
drink pop; she drinks water. I drink pop, but
I don’t let the kids drink pop. She eats
PB & J sandwiches and chili for snacks. She
may be eating to comfort herself for what’s
on her mind: her grandpa dying and her father
denying that she’s his child. That could
explain why she’s gained 70 pounds in the
last 2 years.
WHY DOES CHELSEY EAT SO MUCH?
She’s torn up and eating out of
comfort. She feels like her dad doesn’t
care because he denies her. Chelsey looks just
like her dad. I tell him he makes Santa Claus
look small. My son is just like my dad; he can
eat and eat and eat. My other kids are fine with
weight. My sisters in law have elastic bodies,
they snap back after having kids.
WHAT’S CHELSEY’S DIET LIKE?
She eats a normal school breakfast. Then
she eats a normal school lunch. I don’t
let her pack anything for school. She eats stuff
at grandma’s house between lunch and dinner.
Then she eats whatever she can get away with at
night. She gets hostess as a treat. The worst
thing she might eat is a cup of dinner. If I make
pork chops, mash potatoes and gravy or Chinese
food, she can eat whatever. She disagrees. She
eats dinner-sized snacks up at grandma’s
house. I don’t know what she eats. She can’t
eat one or two corn dogs, she has to have three.
She doesn’t listen to me.
WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO HELP CHELSEY LOSE
WEIGHT?
I can’t afford to put her in program
or summer camp. We tried walking, but she doesn’t
want to walk. She has no will power. She wouldn’t
stick to program. We tried cutting down on her
food, but she gave up. I’m not into junk
food. Pork chops and steak. Walks. She does PE
at school and everything. She runs around with
the dogs in the yard.
WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR CHELSEY?
I want her to be skinny and be a popular
kid. She gets a lot of grief at school. People
ask her if she’s pregnant. She was beautiful
when she was young. I tell those kids that no
one talks down to my kids but me. We keep it in
the family. I do try and stop them, but I’m
not there 24/7. T hey tell me I say it too, but
that’s different. I’m their mother.
WHAT DOES SHALEE SAY TO CHELSEY?
She’ll call her “Fat Ass”
and “Beached Whale," you name it. She’ll
call her a “Fat lazy bitch.” I tell
Shalee to shut up if she starts to get serious.
Now that Chelsey’s gotten heavier, Shalee
is mean to her. I think it’s funny when
Chelsey pins her down. I laugh when my 9-year-old
son calls her, “Ogre of the Forest.”
He tells us we’re all fatties. He gets that
from his father, who used to call us fatties.
His father is not around anymore. She has a great
personality. She likes to make people laugh.
WHAT’S YOUR WEIGHT HISTORY LIKE?
Fat! I was a stick kid growing up. I was
in my first year of training for the Olympics
for floor and parallel bars. I was going to travel
with The Nutcracker. I was really skinny and pretty.
My friends talked me into quitting gymnastics
because I never had time for them. My weight never
moved until I had kids. I could eat a large pizza
and a 2-liter of pop and I not gain weight before
I had kids. I carry my weight pretty well. I’m
5’5”. I weigh at least 200 pounds.
I used to weigh 105 pounds until I started having
kids. I should weigh 125 pounds. I’m not
trying to get back to that weight. After I had
Chelsey, I was way bigger than I am now. I got
up and walked every day. Then my storeowner said,
“You look good. Now you stop!” The
guy said I would look too skinny and would have
to start eating rice with him.
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